People say as you get older your views about people in your life start to change. I never really paid too much attention to that, but in the last six months I've really noticed there are some crappy people in my life. I have never been the girl who sticks to a group of friends, I tend to have several friends from very different groups. I don't like to belong to one group in particular because I may not like everyone in that group. I don't see why I should be part of a group if I can't stand 75% of the people in there.
Since moving to Houston I have made several random friends here and there, some I am still friends with and some I have parted ways with. I do believe each one was in my life at a particular time for a certain purpose. However, I do believe I still have some very toxic people in my life right now and I'm not sure how to get rid of them.
I met one girl here and over the past year I have realized she is not who I thought she was. We got along so well when we first met. I thought she was just like me...sweet with a splash of vodka, but she's more like a hard shot of tequila...all fun and games until the next morning then you hate yourself and that shot! She has a group of friends that she has known for a very long time. I at first was so jealous of this group of girls. I thought it was so nice that they had been friends for years and were so close. However, now being around this group I know I am the lucky one. They talk about each other behind their backs. They judge each other's relationships. They judge their parenting skills. I do not want or need friends like this. The one girl I became very good friends with is one of the worst. She is more of the friend who likes to say she has 5oo friends, but doesn't actually put forth the effort to maintain those friendships and when you stop reaching out to her she blames you. Well, I'm not the girl to do that too. I will drop you like a bad habit. I would rather have 5 friends who are there for me no matter what than 500 friends who mean nothing to me and I mean nothing to them.
I've talked about this with my fiancé because I am definitely the type of person who will tell you what I think and walk away and not feel a bit of regret. But he tells me to ride it out, because she is part of our wedding! He says I shouldn't rock the boat right now. :) Whatever. I will play this for now but after the wedding its either shape up or ship out. I'm 30 years old I don't have time for these stupid mean girl games.
What kills me is I think most girls in Houston are this way. They are either the burb girls who talk shit about each other or they are the downtown I'm too cool for you girls I'm not saying all, so don't get your Hanky Pankys in a wad, but you must admit there are a lot of girls in the Houston area like this. We've all known a few in our time here. Just be honest...I won't tell.
Now I'm not a professional, but my opinion is get rid of these people. You will feel a million times better! I know when I declutter my life of toxic people I sleep better at night and I'm not as stressed! Hopefully after the wedding I clean out some more!
Laters!
L
Tuesday, March 11, 2014
Sunday, March 9, 2014
Wedding Bliss Or Not
Ok so I am really going to try and keep this up! I have promised myself I would start blogging and I do one or two and give up! I give props to those who blog everyday or almost everyday! You are a better woman than I!
Since I last wrote things have been on full blast. We are getting married in less than 57 days! Oh sh*t is right! Sometimes I still can't believe it's happening. We are pretty much done with all our wedding planning, thank goodness. I always thought it would be the best process in the world, but let's be real there are times it blows! He and I have had our moments. I've had moment with my parents and his mom and sister. It's all been crazy. Not what I expected at all. Wedding planning is supposed to be fun. People are supposed to get along and all is supposed to be great. HA! Bullshit!
From the moment we got engaged it was a struggle from the original date we set, to who my bridesmaids were. Y'all it was intense. Made me really sad we did not elope! All this headache for no reason. He and I began to feel guilty because we felt like we were making every one's life miserable. Then the more I thought about it the more it really got me. This is our time. We get to be selfish. This isn't about our parents, our siblings, or anyone else. It's US! People tend to make things about them when it's not really about them. I have heard more times than I can count, don't forget your parents in all this. We are doing the best we can to incorporate every one's wishes, but at the end of the day it's he and I up there starting OUR family. We are branching out from our parents and starting a life together and we shouldn't feel bad about that.
People who write all these wonderful things about their wedding planning process are full of crap! Sorry but they are. It wasn't an easy process so let's not pretend it was. Tell the truth. Tell people you wanted to pull your hair out or call it all off. No one will judge you because they've been there too! No one has this easy, not even if you have a wedding planner. Hell you probably wanted to kill him or her too. We have all shed tears, ok lots of tears. I've talked about eloping a hundred times and really tried to convince my boo to do it..thankfully he hasn't given in. As hard as this process has been I know come that day it will be more than worth it. Our wedding will be gorgeous. We will start our family. The flowers may not be perfect. The songs may suck. People may not dance. The food may be awful but we will be MARRIED and in the end that is all that matters!
Let's leave this first one on the short side.
L
Since I last wrote things have been on full blast. We are getting married in less than 57 days! Oh sh*t is right! Sometimes I still can't believe it's happening. We are pretty much done with all our wedding planning, thank goodness. I always thought it would be the best process in the world, but let's be real there are times it blows! He and I have had our moments. I've had moment with my parents and his mom and sister. It's all been crazy. Not what I expected at all. Wedding planning is supposed to be fun. People are supposed to get along and all is supposed to be great. HA! Bullshit!
From the moment we got engaged it was a struggle from the original date we set, to who my bridesmaids were. Y'all it was intense. Made me really sad we did not elope! All this headache for no reason. He and I began to feel guilty because we felt like we were making every one's life miserable. Then the more I thought about it the more it really got me. This is our time. We get to be selfish. This isn't about our parents, our siblings, or anyone else. It's US! People tend to make things about them when it's not really about them. I have heard more times than I can count, don't forget your parents in all this. We are doing the best we can to incorporate every one's wishes, but at the end of the day it's he and I up there starting OUR family. We are branching out from our parents and starting a life together and we shouldn't feel bad about that.
People who write all these wonderful things about their wedding planning process are full of crap! Sorry but they are. It wasn't an easy process so let's not pretend it was. Tell the truth. Tell people you wanted to pull your hair out or call it all off. No one will judge you because they've been there too! No one has this easy, not even if you have a wedding planner. Hell you probably wanted to kill him or her too. We have all shed tears, ok lots of tears. I've talked about eloping a hundred times and really tried to convince my boo to do it..thankfully he hasn't given in. As hard as this process has been I know come that day it will be more than worth it. Our wedding will be gorgeous. We will start our family. The flowers may not be perfect. The songs may suck. People may not dance. The food may be awful but we will be MARRIED and in the end that is all that matters!
Let's leave this first one on the short side.
L
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